We all want to have the freedom to believe what we want…and to do what we want…but when things don’t work out the way we want…we get upset and usually (especially lately) we look for someone else to blame.
Blame is everywhere! It’s always the first thing people reach for. It’s become our “go-to” action to justify our pain or unhappiness that is a result of actions that we most likely took or failed to take. And the funny thing is…once we have found someone or something to place the blame on…it rarely, if ever removes our pain…and many times…it only enhances it! So why do we do it? Why do we think blame is a viable option for pain relief?
I think it’s because blame is easy. It requires no new action on our part. It requires no discipline. It requires no risk. It’s safe…and it’s ineffective.
You see, I believe Actions and Consequences are two sides of the same coin. You take an action…you get a consequence.
Let’s take a look at the actual word…
“Consequence” = Con + Sequence
We all know that Con means Against. And we all know that a Sequence is a particular order in which related events, movements, or things are expected to follow each other.
So when we put that understanding together…it basically means that a “consequence” is an outcome from an action that is opposite of what is expected! No wonder people don’t want to accept the consequences of their actions!
It’s not was expected! It’s not what we wanted! So we’re not going to accept it! We’re going to blame (or transfer) the consequences of our actions of someone else! But we can’t…because it’s the same coin. Actions and Consequences are permanently bonded together!
Pleasurable undisciplined actions most always result in unpleasurable consequences.
But the flipside is also true…
If you want pleasurable consequences…you need to take unpleasurable disciplined actions!
Life ain’t easy…it was never designed to be…
Two sides…one coin…